Coping with difficult situations
 
Caring for someone with a chronic health condition is never easy and there may be times when it is especially tough. Here's some advice which may help: 
 

• If you are feeling stressed, weepy or exhausted, it's a good idea to take a break to recharge your batteries. If the person you are caring for is seriously ill and needs ongoing care – and there's no one else who can take over your responsibilities for a few hours or few days – your local Social Services may be able to help. If you are depressed or suffering from insomnia, it is worth contacting your doctor. 
   
  
• If you want to chat to someone don't feel guilty if you find yourself moaning about your situation. It's really important to express your feelings and not bottle them up. Sharing your frustrations with someone may make you feel better. You may find it helpful to become a member of a charity or patient organisation that specialises in the condition your loved one or friend has been diagnosed with.  
   
  
• If there's a time of day you know you feel low, try to give yourself a treat. Making a special time to sit down to watch your favourite soap with a cup of tea or doing something else just for you, can make a real difference. 
   
  
• If you have a medical emergency, it is good to have any relevant information and paperwork somewhere you can access easily in a rush. It is also a good idea to keep a list of emergency numbers next to your telephone, just in case. 
   
  
• If the person you are caring for becomes depressed, emotionally distressed or suicidal, urgent attention may be needed. Ignoring the situation will just make it worse. Get them to see their GP as soon as you can and remember, you or the person you're caring for can always talk to someone 24 hours a day by calling Samaritans on 08457 909090. Alternatively, there are charities and organisations that enable people with specific conditions to get together and support each other. Ask at your GP surgery for details of these. 
   
  
• If you become ill and are unable to provide essential care, then your local Social Services should be able to provide a number of helpful services, such as day centres, respite care, home help and meals on wheels. These may only be available to people who are seriously ill and cannot care for themselves.